There are various styles of conflict which include:
Competition: it involves a high concern for oneself and a low concern for the other.
Avoidance: it involves having little concern either for your own interests or for the interests of the other.
Accommodation: it is the neglect of one's own interests in order to pursue the interests of the other.
Compromise: involves some concern about both one's interests and the interests of the other.
Collaboration: it involves a high degree of concern both for one's own interests and for the interests of the partner.
Now it is important to understand that conflict is not always bad. There are good things about conflict in a marriage. These include: Helps us to better examine ourselves, brings issues out to the open and builds confidence in abilities and the relationship.
This week we learned about the Council Method. I had never really heard about this before but know that I have I think its amazing. So the Council Method is based on having everyone speak about their concerns and be able to express their opinion, rather than just having one person impose their ideas on the other individuals.
I had such a beautiful and spiritual experience while learning about this because this is the way Heavenly Father if giving us the opportunity to become one with our spouse and our family. If you would like to learn more, I've included these articles.
M. Russell Ballard, “Strength in
Counsel”, General Conference, October 1993
M. Russell Ballard, “Counseling with
Our Councils”, General Conference, April 1994
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